Children sometimes need a bit of help in the motivation department. They don’t always care about doing well, studying, or say learning piano. In their minds, they always have tomorrow.
How can we help motivate them?
Just like adults, children need to feel needed and to have a purpose.
They need a WHY.
It is not always good enough to give them your why. They really need their own why, whatever that may be.
I love the way that John Asseraf, in his Neurogym videos, gives advice on finding your WHY. He states for adults to do the “rocking chair test”. This means to think about yourself as an eighty year old person in a rocking chair. Imagine your eighty year old mind is still quite in tact, and full of wisdom. What would this eighty year old self tell the current self to stop doing and to start doing, and why?
Let’s extrapolate this to be useful for children. We will call it the scuba diving test. Ask your child to imagine themselves as a 25 year old adult. Tell them to imagine what that adult would be doing, and what advice that adult self would give to the child self. What would the scuba diving adult tell your child to stop doing, and to start doing to get to where they see themselves.
The clearer the picture they have in their minds, the better this test will provide a WHY. Get them to write it on paper in full detail for their eyes only. Have them look at that paper for a minute daily and add or change it as desired. Have them touch the words with their fingers, and imagine how that future will smell and sound. The more senses your child can incorporate into the imagination future self, the more WHY there will be.
The more WHY your child has, the more your child will naturally gravitate towards wanting to do more to reach that eventual goal. Their every decision will be subconsciously and perhaps consciously be made with a WHY and an end goal in mind.
The earlier in life this is done, the better, so pitter patter. This is your WHY ;-)
Let’s make them…